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The Official Rules of Airplane Etiquette

Let’s start with this: airport travel brings out the worst in people. Put groups of strangers in unorganized lines, test their patience with flight delays and missing baggage, embarrass them with sometimes invasive security screenings, and deprive them of sleep, exercise, and proper nutrition, and people will be crankier and act more entitled than they would normally.

Navigating airports, customs, and baggage claims is stressful enough, so I like to treat my time on the actual airplane as a time to relax. This can be difficult when you’ve sacrificed your personal bubble to be elbow-to-elbow with strangers. Therefore, I’ve compiled the unwritten list of conduct for when our patience is stretched thin. Some of these rules are common sense, but for some rules I’ve taken the liberty of settling debates. Here are the newly official rules of airplane etiquette from a very frequent flyer.

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Because settling the debate of armrest entitlement makes air travel better.

DO:

  • Anticipate what you’ll need and keep it by your seat. Avoid climbing over the person in the aisle seat to keep selecting a different book or to get more snacks from the overhead compartment.
  • Come prepared. Bring entertainment for you and any young passengers you’re watching. And then bring more than you think you need. If you get motion sickness while reading the book you brought, pull out your headphones and listen to the podcasts you downloaded. If you’re not interested in the in-flight movie, start a knitting project. Nobody likes a Nosy Nancy who is trying to read your book over your shoulder because she can’t sleep. And while chatting with strangers may be your favorite way to pass the time, understand that not everybody is on the same sleep schedule as you and may be depending on this flight for 40 winks.
  • Stay in your own seat as best as you can. Don’t prop your feet on a nearby armrest. One time I was guilty of resting the pillow on the wall of a window seat, and when I nodded off the pillow would slide into the seat in front of me. I kept waking up to my own pillow flying over the seat into my face.
  • Let the person in the middle seat have both armrests. I don’t care how comfortable your second arm needs to be. If you’re not in the middle seat, you can lean into the window or into the aisle (within reason). The middle seat traveler has nothing but strangers leaning into him on both sides. Give him that one perk.
  • Plan your bathroom/leg-stretching breaks as best as you can. Obviously, you can’t help how your body behaves sometimes, especially with factors like nausea and unsettling airplane food. But if you can hold it, wait until all the meal trays have been collected so you’re not stuck behind the cart. That way, the person in the aisle seat isn’t waiting too long for you to come back. And only wake up the aisle seat traveler if you absolutely must go. (Personally, I’ve masted the art of Ninja Armrest Hopping, where I parkour across the armrests of sleeping travelers to land in the aisle without disturbing their naps.)

DON’T:

  • Bring stinky, hot food that everyone else has to smell onto the airplane. And if you ate some stinky food during your layover, it couldn’t hurt to bring a pack of gum or a toothbrush.
  • Hog the overhead space. Just one of your bags should be up there. If the flight is full, your winter coat can stay with your seat instead of taking valuable space away from baggage.
  • Accept your neighbor’s meal or drinks if they’re sleeping. It’s a kind gesture, especially for long flights with limited meal times, but there’s nowhere to store the tray if your neighbor wants to sleep. I made the unfortunate mistake of placing a dinner tray under my seat so I could go back to sleep only to wake up with ankles cover in mashed potatoes. Just let your neighbor know that the food came by already when he wakes up, and if he’s hungry, he can press the button to call for a flight attendant.
  • Take your shoes off. If your feet swell, loosen your shoelaces or invest in compression socks.
  • Tilt your seat back. Trust me, the increase in comfort for you is negligible, whereas the inconvenience for the person behind you increases noticeably. If you absolutely need that 110-degree angle, be mindful if the person behind you has a child or pet on their lap. Pop it back into its original position during meal times so the tray isn’t digging into that person’s ribs. And for the love of travel day gods, at least stay consistent. Don’t change your position every few minutes or bounce it around.
  • Exit before anyone seated in front of you. I don’t care if your connecting flight has already started boarding; you don’t know what everyone else’s flight itinerary is like. Don’t muscle your way to the front of the line. And if you know you need to fumble with an overhead bag, offer to let the person in the aisle next to you leave first.
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Posted by on November 29, 2017 in Blog

 

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Podcast Awards of 2017

You’re walking home alone when a cool October wind blows your hair around your face. The sun is setting earlier tonight, you notice, and you zip up your jacket as the evening autumn weather gives you goosebumps.

Or . . . is there something else giving you a chill?

You slow down, listening to the night air over the sound of your shoes scuffing pavement. Could there be more footsteps than just your own?

You can’t shake the feeling that something is following you.

Luckily, you can pop your headphones into your phone and dive into your new favorite podcast to brush away that Halloween-fueled paranoia. For all your nighttime promenade needs, I’ve selected the best podcasts of 2017.

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Downloading these podcasts to your phone will improve your commute, especially as the weather gets colder.

Biggest Pop Culture Phenomenon: Missing Richard Simmons

Other podcasts on this list have stronger critical reviews, but “Missing Richard Simmons” had the bigger impact on pop culture in 2017 — and the life of its subject. Dan Taberski, a filmmaker and self-proclaimed friend of the flamboyant fitness guru, describes Richard Simmons’s public and personal characters and investigates his disappearance. The podcast received criticism for invading Simmons’ privacy, but Taberski comes

across as a fan and friend who is baffled by an uncharacteristic reclusive behavior. How could a man so affectionate and intimately attached to his fans suddenly stop contacting his closest friends and family?

In response, Simmons called into The Today Show to deny allegations from the show in spring of this year. Yet the heartwarming response from concerned fans because of “Missing Richard Simmons” is worth listening to the whole podcast.

Download this! Episode 3: The Maid and the Masseuse

Best Educational: Stuff You Missed in History Class

Most other lists would give this award to “Stuff You Should Know,” another well-made podcast from HowStuffWorks.com. But “Stuff You Miss in History Class,” hosted by Tracy V. Wilson and Holly Frey, is more organized and easier to follow than its more famous sister podcast.

Download This! Mongolian Princess Khutulun

And while we’re on the subject of history . . .

Best Film History: You Must Remember This

Here’s the tagline for this storytelling podcast: “You Must Remember This is about the secret and/or forgotten histories of Hollywood’s first century.” And true, there is plenty of salacious dirt about the icons from classical Hollywood cinema that their “fixers” wouldn’t want you to know. Yet “You Must Remember This” uses character profiles to illustrate what the zeitgeist in America was when those actors were at the height of their careers.

Every few months, the podcast’s show runner Karina Longworth introduces a new topic for a cycle. 2017’s included “Dead Blondes,” “Jean & Jane” (that would be Jean Seberg from Breathless and Jane Fonda), and “Bela & Boris” (Lugosi and Karloff of monster movie fame). The show portrays these actors as fascinating antiheroes, with thoughtful intentions, flaws, and personal values. But what makes “You Must Remember This” great is when it situates those icons within their historical context, like how the public responded to Barbarella-era Jane Fonda contrasted with Hanoi Jane. Come for the celebrity gossip; stay for the American history lessons.

Download this! Episode 99: Marilyn Monroe: The Persona (Dead Blondes Part 7)

Best TV Recap: A Cast of Kings — A Game of Thrones Podcast

Picking this entry is largely dependent on your taste in television. For example, my love for Dance Moms doesn’t make the recap podcasts about the show any good, but I still devour them. It’s also tricky finding quality podcasts about new television and not nostalgic reviews of shows that have long since been off the air.

What works about the two-person discussion format for “A Cast of Kings” is that David Chen admits he hasn’t read most of the books while his co-host Joanna Robinson is an expert in both the books and the TV series. This caters to the disparate factions of viewers for the show; Chen voices the questions that non-book-readers have and Robinson provides the literary context without spoiling potential plot points for future episodes. And best of all, they can balance having chemistry with each other without bantering off-topic too long.

Download this! A Cast of Kings S7E03 – The Queen’s Justice

Best Film/TV/Book/Music/Etc. Reviews: Pop Culture Happy Hour

“Pop Culture Happy Hour” has been producing episodes for years, but this NPR podcast still as fresh and insightful as its first year. “PCHH” features host Linda Holmes, who writes and edits NPR’s entertainment section; Stephen Thompson, an editor for NPR Music; Glen Weldon, an NPR writer who specializes in comic books and movies; and a rotating fourth chair, depending on the topic or the medium they’re reviewing.

If I were selecting this based on the thoughtfulness and clarity of their reviews, I would still give “PCHH” this category’s award. On top of that, though, they rotate their fourth chair to represent the topic’s intended audience and bring diversity to their discussions. Although in the past couple weeks they have changed their format to shorter biweekly episodes, their original format was gold. A review of film, album, or something else released that week filled the first 15-20 minutes, then a related B-topic about trends in popular culture really explored what we find important in our entertainment.

Download this! Baby Driver and When Auteurs meet Film Franchises

Best New Podcast: S-Town

Desperate to fill the hole left behind from “Serial,” I was happy to read that This American Life was producing a new true-story narrative. The first episode suggests that “S-Town” — which gets its name from the locals’ flippant term “s- – – town”— might follow the true-crime investigative format that “Serial” famously used with its first season. However, the narrative abruptly changes by the next episode. “S-Town” is a well-written fish-out-of-water story about a man with big ideas who blames the inclusivity of a rural town in the deep South for his misfortune. Host Brian Reed is sympathetic and observant with characters who would test anyone’s patience, and the result is a podcast that echoes our insecurities about purpose and a sense of belonging.

Download this! Chapter II

 
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Posted by on October 26, 2017 in Blog

 

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What I hope to see in Justice League

I remember when I saw the symbol for Batman v Superman: Dawn of Justice from the 2013 Comic Con, goosebumps rushed over my arms. My introduction into comic book heroes was through Batman: The Animated Series and later the animated Justice League series, so I’ve always had a preference for DC characters.

I had always craved a DC team-up movie, and after the Dawn of Justice announcement, I hoped that eventually a Justice League movie would follow.

With Justice League set for release later this year, a dream I’ve had for about 15 years is coming true. And while the DC cinematic universe has been hit-and-miss, I hope that the momentum from the successful Wonder Woman film earlier this year will carry into this project.

In addition to compelling character designs, fight choreography, and the introduction of some DC heroes to the silver screen, here’s what I hope to see in Justice League.

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From left: Cyborg, Batman, Wonder Woman, The Flash, and Aquaman. Not pictured: Superman, inevitably. 

Cyborg starts as a depressed ex-jock and evolves into a charismatic leader. Cyborg’s personality varies wildly between different media, so representing him faithfully in a film will be a challenge. Showing a complete evolution of his character within the film would pay homage to his multiple portrayals. The film could start just after he loses his sports scholarships and is desperate for his father’s approval, and by the end, he relaxes into a more confident hero. Maybe he can even sneak in a “boo-yah” for fanboys’ sake. And mine.

And while we’re on the subject, I hope that Cyborg’s sci-fi-inspired powers aren’t whittled down to “magic technology that is convenient to the plot.” My hope is that the film will be smarter than Felicity’s unbelievable skills on the show Arrow, where the philosophy goes, “Got a problem? There’s a technology hack for that. Just let me flutter my fingers across a keyboard.”

Barry Allen is basically Wally West. From the one-liners in the trailers, the film seems to be treating the Flash more like the younger, wisecracking Wally West iteration of the speedster than the more serious Barry Allen. Not only do I want comic relief in the film, I hope Barry will be the stand-in for the audience the way that Steven Trevor was in Wonder Woman: someone in awe by the might of the other superheroes but inspired to be the best that he can be because of them.

Aquaman is a warrior without having to conveniently relocate the battle to a dock, beach, or seafood restaurant. Aquaman’s reputation has suffered in popular culture thanks to the clean-cut and unimaginative portrayal he had in the cartoon Super Friends, in which he was only useful when located near water and his complex telepathic abilities were simplified to “talking to fish.” Since that was his last memorable representation, people unfamiliar with the character consider him only useful when he’s near water.

The initial photos for Justice League looks like Aquaman was inspired by the 90s comics by Peter David. With the long hair and the shirtless design, all that Aquaman is missing is the harpoon spearhead for an arm. With this ferocious design, I’m hoping that the film will acknowledge that Aquaman is still a tenacious warrior on land.

None of the main characters die. Let’s not beat around the bush; Superman will be alive in this film and will join the team. But *spoilers* there was no reason for him to die in Dawn of Justice in the first place. The stakes are always lowered when characters die and come back to life in some plot-convenient magical resurrection. If we need the dramatic payoff of a character death, write off a character because Aquaman lost faith in humanity and retreated back to his underwater kingdom, or because Cyborg couldn’t maintain the technological demands of high-impact battle on his body. The heroic death cliche is meaningless now.

I’m extending this to some other Wonder Woman characters that the studio has announced will be in this film. My hope is that these characters are present in the story via flashback and not through resurrection or a disingenuous fake-out death from the solo film.

The political allegory is genuine but respectful. Steppenwolf, from the planet Apokolips (the same home of the galactic tyrant Darkseid) unites the Amazonian, Atlantean and human races against him. I hope it’s a careful metaphor for the divisive political climate that has erupted over the past few years. It’s a topical subject that will resonate with audiences.

I also want to see references to domestic terrorism based on politics and xenophobia. I just hope that we can handle these topics without being heavy-handed. While I am invested in Zack Snyder’s original vision, I hope that with Joss Whedon leading the post-production, the script can handle contemporary issues with compassion and not shallow moments thrown in for the shock factor.

I don’t want to see literal recreations of some of the more painful moments of terrorism we’ve experienced or seen in the news in the past few years. But I also don’t want a convenient after-school special where the heroes learn that teamwork makes the dream work and they forget all of their prejudice in an hour. It’s a delicate balance, but if the film finds that line then the story will be impactful.

There is only one main villain who is mostly a metaphor. 

To avoid Wonder Woman spoilers, skip this next paragraph.

I already knew the twist in Wonder Woman before I saw the movie because I had read the cast list on IMDb. However, I still wasn’t bothered by the bait-and-switch. Ares was a metaphor for the horror of war on humanity. The fact that World War I was so much more expansive than one person, even a god, was a central theme for the film. When Diana learned that fighting the war was more complex than defeating Ares, the audience learned that fighting mankind’s inclination for war will be a more constant struggle for us than simply good-versus-evil. And that was especially powerful within a superhero genre film. The only reason why Ares appeared in god form at the film’s climax was because we needed to see Wonder Woman’s powers unleashed in a cinematic spectacle. That, and to see that defeating Ares didn’t prevent World War II or any other war that came after that.

The conflict in Wonder Woman was much more effective than Batman v Superman: Dawn of Justice. Finding a reason in Dawn of Justice for Batman and Superman to fight was an ambitious task, and I thought Snyder chose an interesting theory. Superman represented the Ubermensch, a man so powerful he could influence the world without opposition. Humanity’s best hope is that Superman’s morality is pure, or else face the consequences of his wrath or greed. I liked the echoes of “who watches the Watchmen?” Not only is it a reference to Snyder’s earlier film, but it was especially topical in a flood of superhero genre films and the dozen or so films currently slated for production between Marvel and Warner Bros. studios.

A comic book-inspired Lex Luthor would have been an effective counterpoint to that. Luthor as a politically and financially powerful figure with a corrupt morality would have been an interesting character against a physically powerful but morally conscious Superman.

Instead, we got a weird knockoff Joker for Lex Luthor. And then remnants of Zod from Man of Steel. And then, for absolutely no reason other than to have a fantastic fight scene with Batman, Superman, and an unnecessary Wonder Woman, the film threw in Doomsday (who looked more like Killer Croc).

The conflict was everywhere and I couldn’t tell you what the theme of film was by the end. So, I’m hoping the studio learned their lesson and made the antagonist in Justice League more philosophical than a mess of galactic, all-powerful allies who attack Earth with little motivations other than to give the Justice League a reason to join up. Yes, I want comic book Easter eggs. But I don’t want half-formed villains that the Justice League has to fight all at once in order to demonstrate the full force of their powers.

Is it too much to ask for a clean narrative, character development, and spectacular fight scenes?

If it is, I’ll still be buying movie tickets anyway. I’ve waited 15 years for this.

 
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Posted by on August 22, 2017 in Blog

 

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Death, not-death, and the rest: how a book changed my life 10 years ago

On this day 10 years ago, I had plans to visit a local amusement park with my sister and I was reluctant to go.

My hesitation wasn’t because I didn’t enjoy the attractions at the Darien Lake park with my sister; it was because I didn’t want to hear any spoilers.

I averted my eyes from any walls in the park because I didn’t want to see any graffiti that might read “[SO-AND-SO] DIES AT THE END.” And my sister, a fellow Potterhead, helped maintain a conversation all day so I wouldn’t accidentally overhear a spoiler while waiting in line for the rides.

That’s because this was only a few hours after the final book of my favorite series, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, was released, and we hadn’t had time to read it yet.

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The seventh and final Harry Potter book was released on July 21, 2007.

DOES HARRY POTTER DIE?

Harry Potter was the first franchise in my life for which I had developed fan theories. I turned over the number of possibilities for my fictional heroes’ fates, studied other fans’ ideas online, and discussed with my sister, friends, and even readers who hadn’t caught up yet what might happen. What are the other Horcruxes, and where would Harry find them? What are the “Deathly Hallows” and what is their significance? And, most pressingly, who will die?

There was no question that death would be a main theme in the last book of the series. Perhaps surprisingly for a children’s series, each book progressively explored death and how it affects the living. And with “death” blatantly featured in the title of the seventh book, readers knew that the Second Wizarding War would take the imaginary lives of our beloved characters. What we wondered was the number of deaths and who exactly would die — most pressingly, if Harry Potter would die.

The Harry Potter series is certainly a classic good-versus-evil archetype. I never questioned that the “good guys” would win. But we usually consider “death” as “losing.” In Deathly Hallows, accepting death as a natural part of life is a major theme. At 17 years old, I considered the strong possibility that Harry Potter — a hero, friend, and inspiration in my mind — might die. And I also knew that he could still triumph if he did.

In the time I waited for the release of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, I turned over what it would mean to me if Harry or my other favorite characters did die. When I finally read the book, I learned that there was a complimentary theme to accepting death: living a life with love, purpose, and courage means that death can’t be considered a defeat.

Since the 10 years that I finished the Harry Potter series for the first time, I have had to confront mortality in the real world. Friends, family, and celebrities I idolized have passed away. Nothing has been more beneficial in my grieving process than reflecting on the lessons I learned from the seventh Harry Potter book.

The author commented on her decision for Harry’s fate in a 2007 TV documentary called “J.K. Rowling — A Year in the Life.” (The next paragraph has a Hallows spoiler, if you are still waiting in line for your library’s copy.)

“It’s much harder to rebuild than to destroy,” Rowling says in the TV special. “In some ways, it would have been a neater ending to kill him, but I felt it would have been a betrayal because I wanted my hero … to do what I think is the most noble thing. So, he came back from war and he tried to build a better world.”

All these years later, Harry’s choices are still an inspiration for my goals in life. When I was younger, I was exactly like Hermione when we first meet her. I was a pretentious overachiever who wanted everyone to know how great a student I was because I was insecure. Back then, I thought my life would be defined by obvious achievements like graduation from a prestigious university or a high-paying job. By the end of the series, I wanted (and still want) to define my life by my friendships, my empathy, and my desire to make the world a better place.

I may not be in a position to save the world like Harry Potter, but I am in a position to befriend people from all walks of life, fight for the disenfranchised, broaden my perspectives, and step up when I have an opportunity to give back.

AFTER THE FINAL CHAPTER

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In the rush to stock bookstores, many copies contained printing errors. My copy of Deathly Hallows had fading text during the climactic confrontation.

Yes, these books have thrilling adventures and clean, logical rules in the otherwise chaotic world of magic. Of course, Rowling’s whimsical imagination paired with research into real-world mythology is incomparable. And conveniently for me, the increasing tonal maturity in each book matched the age I was when I read each of them.

Yet what affected me the most, especially with the last book, was that the rest of the world loved them.

In Deathly Hallows, the characters’ capacity to love helps vanquish evil. This could have easily been a romantic love story in which Harry alone fights for love; instead, dozens of heroes in the books choose compassion and forgiveness and are ultimately rewarded.

If these books sold as well as they did, that must mean they resonated with millions of other people in the same ways they resonated with me. And that must mean there are millions of other readers who are inspired to consider empathy and fight injustice.

So despite any social or political differences, there are often Potterheads hiding on both sides of a conflict. We’re all looking to be as understanding as Dumbledore or brave as Harry, even if we disagree on how to get there.

Maybe we’re just hoping a little magic will help.

 
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Posted by on July 21, 2017 in Blog

 

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The ultimate guide to surviving long flight days

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Seeing my tour friends post about their international flights on Facebook gives me a bite from the travel bug.

 

On one of my many travel days, I was finding my seat on a plane for a connecting flight. A man sheepishly asked me if I minded giving up my aisle seat for a middle seat so that he could sit next to his wife.

I told him, “Sure, no problem. This is a short flight anyway.”

The man on the other side of me sputtered, “Short flight?! It’s four hours!”

I guess my perspective had shifted because I had just come from a 14-hour flight, two hours of standing in customs and luggage recheck lines, and a connecting flight before that. And I still had another flight scheduled after that one.

Traveling to other countries is a wonderful gift for which I’m grateful. However, the length of intercontinental flights can be overwhelming. Once you consider the uncomfortable proximity of strangers, sitting in an airplane seat for 14 hours becomes much more unsettling than sitting on your couch for the same amount of time binging on Netflix.

To alleviate some of the stress, I’ve assembled the ultimate guide to surviving especially long flights.

THE DAY BEFORE:

Sort out your carry-ons CAREFULLY. This depends on how you need to distribute your luggage weight between your checked bags and your carry-ons, but the less you have to lug around on long travel days, the easier your life will be.

Also, look out for anything that might flag scanners at the airport. Besides the banned items, agents have searched my backpack because of a purse within my backpack, a tangled mess of charging cables, a coin purse, batteries, and aggressive-looking keychains. And once the person searching your carry-on gets to the bottom of the last pocket, they rarely place everything back neatly.

The most notable exception was in Japan, when the security agent asked me permission to remove every item from my backpack, one at a time. Then he asked me if it was okay to place item back in. While I appreciated how thoroughly polite he was, it was a tedious process during a limited layover time.

Pick your favorite outfit for travel day. Waiting in hours of lines and not lying down for a day or more can make people feel less than their best. At least it’ll help if you’re in

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It couldn’t hurt to bring an extra sweater if the airport is chilly.

an outfit that makes you look good. And be sure to find an outfit that allows for bloating, feet swelling, and seat belts digging into your waist.

Oh, and wear socks. Nobody wants a barefoot passenger traipsing through the security line.

Pack a small change of clothes and toiletries. I stick with a fresh pair of underwear, socks, a toothbrush, travel-sized toothpaste, a hairbrush and some deodorant. Then, I duck into a bathroom before standing in a long line or waiting for my transportation from the airport to the hotel. Taking time to freshen up reduces my crankiness.

Get a good night’s sleep . . . or don’t. For most passengers, sleeping on a plane is difficult. Your neck is strained even with an airplane pillow, you can’t curl up, and you have to sleep semi-vertically. Cutting back on sleep the night before might help you pass out on a long plane ride. For me, since I can rarely sleep at all on planes, I’d rather have one last full night of sleep before acknowledging I’m not going to sleep the next day. Plus, standing in long immigration and security lines while groggy can lead to accidentally leaving a suitcase behind or heading to the wrong terminal.

THE MORNING OF:

Charge all of your appliances. I recommend investing in a battery-powered charger for your appliances, too.

Download your entertainment to your devices. Most airplanes have dozens of movies and television shows available on the back of the seat in front of you on international flights. Still, I recommend non-visual entertainment when your eyes are tired of the strain. Podcasts, music, and audiobooks are great for resting your eyes.

Shower. This isn’t meant to condescend to your hygiene; what I mean is to shower as close to your departure time as possible. I normally prefer to shower at night, but when it may be 36 hours before I see a private bathroom again, you can bet I’ll be showering within an hour of when I leave for the airport.

Bring an empty water bottle. In most North American airports, you can refill it once you get past security and save yourself $4. If you’re in a country that doesn’t have a water fountain in the airport, you can at least ask a flight attendant for two cups of water on the plane to fill it so you don’t dehydrate on the long plane ride.

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This plane’s oxygen masks accidentally fell out during boarding and caused an hour delay on my flight. Just be patient!

AT THE AIRPORT:

Give yourself plenty of time to get there. Yes, I know, you want to spend as little time as possible at your home airport, but you have to allow for traffic and long security lines. You never know if delays, a power outage, or some other emergency has caused backup at your first airport.

Take anti-motion sickness precautions. Not everyone is as cursed with motion sickness as I am, but in case you do run into awful turbulence, come prepared. I take motion sickness pills, but it’s important to note those take a full hour to be effective, so I plan accordingly. I also stock up on everything with ginger, which is a natural anti-nausea spice — ginger drops, ginger chews, candied ginger, ginger tea bags, and ginger ale once I’m on the plane. It’s better to prepare for motion sickness before you hit turbulence than to experience nausea and wait for these remedies to kick in.

Download your airline’s app. I have found the airline’s apps to usually be the first with flight updates, before the monitors at the airport or the email notifications. Also, when you’re flying internationally, research your airline’s alliance and ask if you can transfer your frequent flyer miles to your domestic airline.

Hold back the sass. There’s something about airports that brings out the worst in people. Flight delays cause people to snap at employees at the check-in desk; power-tripping TSA agents condescend to passengers in the security line; passengers elbow each other and merge to the front of the line to board the plane like it’s the Hunger Games and roll their eyes if they lose.

You have your ticket, so you will have a seat. You gave yourself time to get through the airport. If you miss your connection, you can reschedule to a different flight and get home eventually. Just relax and don’t feed into the competitive energy in airports. I find that when employees are snippy with me, it’s because they’ve already spent four hours straight dealing with other snippy passengers. Once I relax and recognize treat travel day as a low-stress situation, the effect is contagious.

And finally, enjoy! Look at long travel days as opportunities, not a chore. A long plane ride is a chance to catch up on all the Academy Award nominations from that year or read that book you’ve been meaning to finish. Killing time at a layover means I indulge in an expensive coffee treat that I don’t normally buy anymore. And waiting in line at immigration or baggage claim is usually no worse than 30 minutes of your time, which can be spent people-watching passengers from different cultures.

 
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Posted by on June 28, 2017 in Blog, travel

 

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7 ways living on the road has changed me

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Traveling can be hard work, but moments like this in the Maldives are worth it.

 

In just over a week, I’ll mark my five-year anniversary since I wrote this post journaling the start of my ice show career. That’s five years that I’ve been living out of two 50-pound suitcases (or less), working across five different continents and 43 US states. Now, I barely resemble the person I was when I graduated university. Most of my personal growth has come from traveling, performing in live shows, living with a tour family, and simple aging into my late 20s.

Yet I can’t ignore the ways in which living on the road makes me different from my friends who have settled down. And hopefully, any roadie or fellow performer who reads this list can relate.

1) There’s no such thing as “home.” Before my parents moved about two years ago, going back to the house where I grew up felt like visiting a museum of a life I used to live. Then when my parents moved, I realized I was living in a home that they’ve built

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Home is where . . . the sangria is (like in Spain, pictured here).

without me, not a place where I can nestle in. Whenever I get off the road and find my new place is where I’ll find my “home.”

But can a place really feel like “home” if my tour family isn’t there to share it with me?

2) I barely have any souvenirs that aren’t photographs. With a weight limit of 100 pounds for 8 months (or more!) at a time, I just can’t afford the space for a Starbucks or Hard Rock mug from every city I visit. Plus, once I bring it to my parents’ place, I don’t want to live under the clutter of all of those souvenirs. For a while I tried to collect keychains from places that influenced me, but they’re much less durable than I thought and I now travel the fragments in the pockets of my backpack.

3) I have no idea how to do a cosmetic “day look” anymore. There’s my “travel day” look, which is some moisturizer, glasses so I can squeeze in a 10-minute nap here and there, and French braids so I can rest my hair against a headrest and so I can hide the drool that seeps in when my head droops at a 45-degree angle.

As a show girl, I have a “neutral” makeup look, which I create with this train of thought: “Well, minimum I need two layers of foundation. Then just a dab of mascara, which of course needs some thick eyeliner underneath. No, a bit more than that — gotta make up for all the natural lashes I’ve ripped out wearing fake eyelashes during shows. Maybe just a bit of bronzer all over my face and neck just so I look well-rested. And of course I can’t go out without contouring my cheeks. Same goes for filling in my eyebrows. May as well add in a smidge of blush and eyeshadow. Does ‘ruby red’ look like I’m not wearing any lipstick at all?”

On the other hand, when it comes to my hair, most people are used to seeing me with a sweaty ponytail fresh from a wig cap, so a freshly shampooed look is fancy on me.

4) I don’t eat at restaurants on special occasions anymore. I used to consider going to Olive Garden on my birthday was a treat, or that ordering pizza meant I was having a significant party. Since I don’t have a kitchen on the road, most of my meals during the week are at restaurants, be they Subway, a cafe, or a local sit-down restaurant. Now when I want to celebrate my birthday, anniversaries, or family get-togethers, I prefer

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Sometimes donuts, like these from Portland’s Voodoo Doughnut, are my breakfast.

home-cooked meals or potlucks if they’re available.

(Since I do eat at so many restaurants, I’ve been sharing my experiences by reviewing restaurants across North America. You can check out some of my reviews at tourbites.wordpress.com.)

5) My fashion choices are repetitive. I was never fashion-forward, but before I joined tour I could put together 20 different T-shirt-and-jeans combinations before doing a load of laundry. Now, I rely on six different shirts that I like the best and only a handful of skirts or dresses. There’s not much variety in my wardrobe, and even when I visit home I keep most of my clothes tucked away or else I donate them.

6) I’m addicted to candles. Keeping one scent that I enjoy everywhere I go helps me create a familiar space. I have air fresheners and sprays that create artificial scents for each season, but my favorite method is traveling one extra large candle that I can slowly burn every city. That way, I know that when I smell “pink sands,” I’m smelling whatever I can call home that week.

7) I’m more outgoing. Before tour, “going out” was a whole ordeal for which I had to mentally and physically prepare myself. On tour, we’ll come back from work at 9:30 pm and we’ll have to race to make it to a restaurant or a bar before it closes its kitchen so we can have dinner. That means little to no time to have a shower, and certainly no time to wash and style my hair. Well, I’m already at a bar, may as well have a drink with my meal. And a dozen of my coworkers are here at the bar too because this is the only place to eat within walking distance. Just like that, I’ve “gone out.” Even if I wanted to stay in that night, hearing everyone bouncing around hotel rooms like a college dorm keeps me awake until 1 am anyway, so I may as well join them.

There’s nothing wrong with being a homebody or embracing introversion. Once I hang up my skates, I’ll probably do both. Yet my life on the road is a lifestyle that makes the years fly by, and adapting to it is the only way I’ve survived most of my 20s with this job.

 
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Posted by on May 24, 2017 in Blog, travel

 

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How to live out of a suitcase

My backpack on travel day is overstuffed. Most of the time, this isn’t an issue during security screenings because I’m careful about the items I cram in there.

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All of my belongings for 2/3 of a year.

One time, a TSA officer smirked and said, “Gee, you must be new to traveling” with as much condescension as he could drip onto me.

I wanted to sass back and say, “Actually, I’ve been to dozens of countries in the past two years alone.” Instead, I swallowed and pointedly said, “No, I’m not.”

Judgmental passengers might say that an overstuffed backpack suggests a lack of organization. What they don’t know is that for someone who won’t see home for eight months at a time, I actually pack quite light. The last time they moved apartments probably consisted of a truck full of boxes. The last time I moved residences was last week and I only have two suitcases and one backpack to make that happen.

So how do I make that happen? I’ve compiled what I’ve learned since I’ve traded furniture for suitcases. I have a few cheats, as you’ll see, but I’ll mostly stick to travel tips I’ve learned for myself or from my traveling colleagues.

Only pack for 10 days

Packing for an eight-month tour can seem daunting. However, I soon realized that packing for a month-long contract and a full year are basically the same. Toiletries, dishes, shoes — these are all items that I’ll reuse daily for months. What does change is the clothing I wear each day. I know that I do laundry once a week, so I really don’t need to pack eight months of outfits. Instead, I need to pack for one week of clothes, plus a few days in case I don’t make it to a washing machine that week.

Tourists who only have a two-week vacation probably don’t want to spend time searching for a laundromat when they can be sightseeing. But for people who live on the road all year, frequent laundry days are the way to go. The money you’d spend at a laundromat — if you don’t have any complimentary washers and dryers in a hotel or Airbnb — is significantly less than what you’d pay than if you had weekly overweight fees at an airport.

For a year-long contract, I know I need to pack for multiple seasons. But instead of 10 separate sweaters, I know I can wear a sweater over my springtime T-shirt and wear that sweater more than once. As for shoes, I pack four pairs: running shoes, walkable daily shoes, flip-flops, and nude or black high heels that go with everything. (For winter, I’ll throw in boots, as well.)

If you don’t want to sacrifice your unique fashion identity, you do have other choices. I like to utilize light accessories like scarves to bring variety to my outfit. Depending on your budget, you can also shop throughout the tour and mail other items back home. However, if you still depend on clothing variety, you can prioritize clothing in your suitcase by using my other tips.

Distribute and redistribute 

While it would make sense to keep all of the same category in each bag, it’s better to organize your luggage to balance your weight. For example, many of my coworkers put all of their clothes in one bag and toiletries, dishes, and miscellaneous other items in the other. However, my shoes, jeans, and sweatshirts are some of my heaviest items, so I’ll rearrange those items into my smaller suitcase to ensure that my larger one doesn’t became too heavy. On some tours, I’ve traveled with only one suitcase and one carry-on. In that case, I’ll put all of my shoes and dishes (except knives) in my carry-on so that I don’t hit the 50-pound maximum in my large suitcase.

Nobody wants to be caught behind that person in the airport who has to rearrange their luggage at the check-in counter at the airport because they weighed their suitcase at 60 pounds. To avoid that, I used to travel a luggage scale; now, I can determine if a bag is close to 50 simply by lifting it with one arm and judging how it feels. However, I still place my heaviest items at the top of my suitcase and place a rolled-up tote bag in my carry-on backpack. If my suitcase is too heavy, I know that I can quickly take out my heaviest item from the top and use the tote bag as my second personal item on an airplane.

Research what’s available to purchase

You don’t need to be fully stocked at the beginning of the year. I don’t need to have my yearly toothpaste supply available before the tour starts; I know I can buy that anywhere. This year, I also needed a new winter coat, but I knew that buying one before leaving from Myrtle Beach would be unnecessary. Instead, I waited until November to buy from the northeast so that I wouldn’t have to travel it during the summer and autumn months.

But sometimes, you do need to come prepared. When I was in Europe, I ran out of dental floss. That’s easy enough to find in a drugstore back home, so I figured it wouldn’t be difficult. Unfortunately, I was in a country where English wasn’t the primary language, and when I spent several minutes searching the shelves in vain, I tried to ask a store employee for help. This is when I learned that the pantomime for dental floss is not universal. I gestured by making two fists at an angle near my slack-jawed mouth and waving them in unison, pretending that I was sliding a string of floss near my front teeth. This was met with a baffled expression and awkward laughter. I never did find floss the rest of that tour.

The takeaway for that story is that for any toiletry that is difficult to describe or apparently rare, I’ll bring extra. And if you have a favorite brand of deodorant, it’s worth bringing. But if you can research if your travel destinations carry decent shampoos ahead of time, you don’t need to travel a whole drugstore in one suitcase.

Anticipate complimentary items

I haven’t bought toilet paper in years. Could you picture how much space that would take in my suitcase? I’m simply accustomed to harder toilet paper. I couldn’t imagine switching to a softer variety now.

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Complimentary soap, lotion, and cups make my packing list lighter.

Again, everyone’s priorities are different. I could cut out some weight if I used shampoo and conditioner from hotels, but I prefer traveling my own to maintain my long hair. But depending on  where you’re staying while you’re living out of a suitcase, your accommodations will likely provide towels, bedding, and soap. That cuts out several items from your packing list. And if you stay at a hotel with a breakfast and/or manager’s reception, you’ll cut back on your food budget, as well.

Be selective with your souvenirs

Two-foot metallic replicas of Big Ben and the Eiffel Tower may look pretty on your mantel back home, but they’re not doing your suitcase any favors for the rest of the year. I learned early that not every place I visit needs a large souvenir. For me, photos are much more memorable.

Some of my coworkers purchased Starbucks tumblers or Hard Rock mugs from every country. Soon enough, they had to slow down their collections by only purchasing those souvenirs in major cities or countries that they really enjoyed.

Personally, I prefer a keychain or magnet collection. Every store at a tourist trap sells them, so they’re not hard to find, and traveling 20 keychains in my backpack is going to be an easier time than the 20 tumblers lining a suitcase.

Buy only as much food as you need

At the start of tour each year, we jump into 12-hour rehearsal days. There’s rarely any time for proper grocery shopping. So, I come to tour with enough granola bars and cans of tuna to sustain me for a couple days before I have a break. But after that, I’m careful with the amount of food that I travel.

If I have a mini-fridge in the hotel for the week, I buy enough food for a week. I usually split my food with my roommate, and sometimes we split larger meals four ways with our friends so that we don’t waste anything. If I know we’ll travel in a bus for a few weeks, I’ll travel a tote bag of spices. If it’s a flight day, we throw our spices in a trunk that travels with our show equipment.

However, if there isn’t a fridge available, we simply eat out most of the time. This is expensive, but it’s a budget tradeoff. What I’m not paying in Internet and cable packages, gas, or rent by living on the road goes toward my hefty food budget. But I try to cut back on food waste by being mindful of exactly how much I eat in a week and sticking to that plan.

Make room for homemaking items

Most of my tips recommend ways to cut down the weight of your suitcase. However, in order to actually live out of a suitcase, it’s important to find ways to improve your quality of life.

Candles and scents give your room a personal touch. If I can’t be home for the holidays, it’s nice to at least smell pine trees and Christmas cookies in my hotel. And if it’s summer back home but I’m in a climate with winter, a beach scent brightens my mood.

And while I live in hotel rooms, I can visually trick myself to think it’s my own space. A pillowcase in my favorite color brightens my bed and makes the pillow feel like it’s my own, even though it’s not. In any case, whenever I have my own place, I will never decorate the beds and walls in off-white. I have stayed in too many hotels for that to happen.

Tiny homes may be trendy now, but backpacking and living out of a suitcase are the original mobile home. You can make a lifestyle out of traveling without the bare minimum of backpacking. By prioritizing what I use on tour and making sure I bring items that make it feel like home, I’ve comfortably lived out of a suitcase for several years.

 
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Posted by on March 28, 2017 in Blog, travel

 

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